Its weighty bellow from my younger brother close to to my ears ‘’Ada Uthiiii, Aaj Eid ji Namaz parahn ree aye’’ brother wake up its Eid day, we have to leave for prayer, I opened my eye looked towards him with killing eyes, but prior to I express it totally, I realized it’s not his liability but mine, I am late. and why he was interested to get me up, because mostly in villages children have very less opportunities to go to city markets and Eid is one of the opportunity for him to visit the bazaar,
First action, we as the latest generation perform while waking up, after opening eyes is to move hand over the bad to find the mobile and that’s what exactly I did, (If you find it in first attempt you are fortunate enough, but I am sure you are not that much lucky like me) meanwhile, I noticed that I have almost 59 unread messages and all of them according to messages headings were wishing me happy Eid. Till the Eid prayer numbers changed into hundreds and. I noticed many message ringtones while Eid prayer; people were getting wishes on their phones around me.
At the evening I sit on a chair in corner at my home alone, my mother came to ask me right after, if I am angry to someone? I said no I am not, She asked why you are sitting alone in this corner, I replied mom I have to read these messages.
I found messages with stars, moons and sweet(Mithaee) designs in my inbox, most of the messages were addressing ‘’Dear All,Hy Friends’’ and to General public of Pakistan who are safe from terrorism yet, while some texts gave me opportunity to find ongoing affairs people have, where people forgot to erase names of their Janu’s/Darlings before forwarding messages to public. And fortunately 2 messages fancying me Eid Mubarak were from my cousins, who were with me all the day. I inquired one of them the reason. he said, I sent to all my contacts and you were in the list, but you wished me already, I said before he finishes, ‘’Bahi yea to Formality hai, Nhain bejo to log Naraz hotay hain’’ Bro,it’s just formality, if you don’t send people mind it.he replied with confident.
And then I realized its just formality nothing more, so all the messages I got in my inbox were just a formality. I went to Oxford dictionary, it define formality as ‘’ a thing that you must do as a formal or official part of a legal process, a social situation, etc’’ and we define it as ‘’Khana Purrii’’خانہ پری.
I looked back and realized, I had many situations where people did just because it was formality. For instance,
During my first year in university I had to have 75 % of attendance to appear in exams. For which I left many out of study assignments, trainings, trips, workshops just to complete my attendance. but when I was sitting in exam, I find few of new faces in exam center, I inquired one of them, I didn’t see you in my class before. he said it’s my first day and with the curiosity, I asked second question what about your 75 % attendance? , he replied with an evil smile ‘’ 75% …ha ha ha it’s just a formality ,grow up child’’.
It goes on,
I took taxi from airport to Margallaha hotel Islamabad as the taxi was about to enter in Islamabad traffic zone from Faiz Abad interchange (Rawal Pindi), driver took seat belt and bend over his chest and left it without attaching to second part, I as curious guy, asked why so ? He replied
‘’Islamabad Police waly brhay sakht hain, ballet na ho to charge karty hain’’
Islamabad police is strict they charge, if found without seat belt.
Per Apnay Bandha to nhain –I said with curiosity
‘’But you didn’t actually fasten’’
Oh sir come on, this is just formality.
I am sure you had many situations where people said, Sir/bahi/Baji yea to bus formality hai..
As whole, we are the nation with bundle of formalities, from our relations to religious, social, cultural duties, we perform many actions just as formality because, we are afraid of the reaction of society, if we don’t do what we are expected to do, that presence of fear made us to do things just for formality, just look at your daily routine, you have done many things without any intentions or feelings, you might not remember many of them because it was formality to do, Right,? In any relationship when attachment dies, formalities are born and when formalities born then nothing remains.
My favorite formality statement : ”Ksi ko be Dehsat Gardi ki Ijazat Nhain Dengay..My question is ? Do they really take your permission to do so…..
Pause for the moment! Visualize how many people you see around every day and gave them a fake smile? Because it’s formality.
We don’t do because we have to do it, or it our responsibility to perform it, that’s why we are suffering, we lake ownership of things, country, people, relations.
Until we are doing things as the formality, our lives won’t change, we will remain same as it is.
What is required is Ownership, to do things because you have to do it, otherwise don’t do it, just for formality. Be it any action you do,
Do things because you love to do it, do it because you really mean it, do it because it inspires you, do it because it makes you happy, Do it because you feel proud to do, do it because it gives you satisfaction.
Do it with Love, Do it with your passion, and do it with your 100 %.
Don’t share/comment/like this blog because it’s Qaisar’s blog and you have to share/comment/like because it’s formality, do it if you really get it what I meant.
